She’s Asking Questions
If your match is asking questions, you’ve safely passed the first test – her impression of you is positive – your pics, bio, and first messages.
Now she’s committed to the conversation and interested in getting to know you. Basically she’s sussing out if you’re date-worthy or not.
Remember the investment scale I mentioned… Always keep it in the back of your mind! If the girl is asking questions, she’s balls-deep invested.
Answer her questions, retain a playfulness with your responses, and if she reacts postively, you’re ready to unleash the date card!
The Conversation is Fast Paced and Flowing
The best time to ask a girl on a date or exchange numbers, is when you catch her in the right mood.
Strike whilst the irons hot. When she’s buzzed and the happy feeling is strong – it will be easy for her to say “Yes” to a date without giving it too much thought.
Because a girl’s decision to date you is never really based on logic, it’s based on how she FEELS in the moment.
So if she’s messaging fast and noticeably enjoying your chat, then there’s never a better time to pop the date question.
Don’t delay it. Her mood, along with her decision to date you or not, is likely to change if you ask at the wrong time.
The Bait Slip Test
If you’re unsure whether NOW is the right time to ask the girl out, you can opt to test the water first.
Casually slip the suggestion of a meetup into the conversation, but whilst doing so, follow up with something else as a distraction.
The idea of this tactic is to plant the idea of a date, but as a casual suggestion so it doesn’t force a commited response.
It takes the pressure off of her. She will have noticed the date text but can choose whether or not to reply to it, without the awkwardness of being put on the spot.
If she ignores the bait, and instead chooses to talk about what she does to ‘keep herself busy’, with no mention of the drink suggestion – this is your cue to wait it out a bit longer, she’s not comfortable with the idea of going on a date yet.
When you feel like your matches’ interest is peaking, it’s time to move things off Tinder – get her number, FaceBook, or ultimately a meetup.
Lucky for you, because if you’ve picked up on any of the signals mentioned above, you’ll know she’s keen and ready to hand over her digits. The transition to getting a date will be as smooth as James Bond ordering a dry martini.
But how you phrase the date text is VERY important…and there are a number of ways you can still screw up with this despite her giving you all the positive signs she wants to date you.
The Dating Message Don’ts:
First let’s cover how to message a girl on Tinder the wrong way. Here are things to avoid when asking a girl out:
The ‘I did not see that coming’ Date Invite
It’s always best to let the date suggestion flow from a fluid conversation. Whilst you’re texting her live – rapid back and forth messaging.
Don’t randomly message her out of the blue when there’s been gaping black hole from when the conversation was last active. We’re talking like 4+ hours of no coms. Always let it lead from a fast flowing conversation.